They could take or leave you // So they took you, and they left you
Despite how well you may think you know someone or how much you know about their life, you *never* know what goes on in their mind and the things that they battle against (mental illness or not)…
Try to have your default response to people be one of kindness, compassion, an attempt to understand or even concern before hopping on your judgmental high horse. Don’t let your less than thoughtful words or assumptions be the ones that break someone.
Some people tend to think that they know what is best, what is normal, when someone is overreacting, or being weird, or how people should or shouldn’t be based off of whatever their “normal” is. They judge others for being different ,as though it is such an annoyance that a person has the audacity to work differently than they do.
But everyone IS different. And everyone’s minds are different. Some people’s minds can be very dark places that take root in things and thoughts that you could never understand. And whenever they attempt to share a bit of that with you or you simply get a glimpse into it, and you immediately respond with condescension, judgment, sarcasm or give the impression that it is all ridiculous and not worth a moment of serious consideration, you may be creating a downward spiral in their mind that you can never reverse. You are sending a multitude of lasting, damaging messages to them. You may be affecting them in a way that you could never imagine.
And let’s just hope that is not the moment they decide those messages are more important than reality.
I’m not saying that everyone is a fragile eggshell you need to tiptoe around, I’m just saying that you should be mindful of the fact that you don’t know everything about everyone or how they work, the struggles they have, or what goes on in their mind from time to time. Err on the side of kindness.>>
Made a “cold weather” playlist. For those who enjoy beautifully depressing music during these months as well. ;]